Friday, March 16, 2012

Make your first night memorable


A little anxiety coupled with moments of anticipation and finally some wild thoughts, the perfect first night experience is often sprinkled with moments of coy reservation!

Most couples nurse nervous speculations and deep seated performance anxiety about their first night of closeness. Hearsay from newly wed friends or common beliefs picked up from random sources add to the sexual tension. Knowing the exact way to get it right is an arduous task and if gone wrong, you may end up facing a catastrophic situation in your bedroom with your first nuptial boo-boos.

We spoke to some couples to know the common blunders they made (inadvertently) on their first night. Of course, it wasn't just about 'sex' on the first night, as there were numerous other problems which could ruin the first night craze...

Boo-boo: A moment in haste and its all waste
Without much knowledge about sex, couples encountered awkward situations like premature ejaculation for men or women getting overtly apprehensive about vaginal pain and hymen bleeding. Fear is the biggest factor affecting performance on the first night.

Top Tip: Make the act more pleasurable
No person is a master sex performer, so indulge in a prolonged foreplay session to make your first night a tender bonding experience. Even if things go wrong, stay calm and try again after some time. Sometimes the wedding stress and the discomfort of an all new environment takes a mental toll. The body and mind may not be fully open for the experience of sexual discovery. Being patient is key.

Boo-boo: Experiments can wait
Agreed that it's your first time with your partner, but don't get overtly excited. Couples are all geared up to try new acts in bed, but first try and figure out your partner's comfort quotient.

Top Tip: Every night is a first night
Don't think that the first night is your 'one and only' chance to make love passionately, with time your bond will grow even more special with your better half. The first night is just the beginning of pleasures. Don't fret and waste it in performance anxiety!

Boo-boo: Look sexy in tradition
It's believed that a bride must remain in her wedding outfit and let the husband come and lift up the veil ('ghoongat').
read full story in times of india

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Indian mothers hold mass wedding in ‘village of sex workers’ to save daughters from prostitution


A human rights group held a mass wedding ceremony in a village in western India where all the women are sex workers in a ploy to rescue the young brides from the skin trade, according to reports.

The event was held Sunday in the village of Vadia, known locally as "the village of prostitutes," in the western state of Gujarat, Agence France-Presse reported.

In all, eight brides, all either 18 or older, were hitched to young men from local communities, while another 12 girls who are under 18 were engaged at the event.

Mittal Patel, of the Vicharta Samuday Samarthan Manch, the non-profit group that organized the weddings, told AFP that nearly 3,000 people turned out to the event to watch the women attempt to snap the generations-old cycle of sexual profiteering in the village.

"Marriage means that the young girls will be saved from the traditional profession of prostitution," Patel said.

"Once the girl gets married or engaged, she cannot be forced into the flesh trade."

The group spent five years gaining the trust of the young grooms, who previously would have viewed any girl from the "village of prostitutes" as damaged goods.

Vadia was known as a hub for the sex trade since before India gained independence from Britain in 1947 and most of the men work as pimps, the Times of India reported.

In one case, a former client lent a hand in organizing the festivities, which included a massive feast for all the guests.

"I got a call recently and the caller turned out to be a customer," Patel told The Times.

"He said he has a daughter with a prostitute of Vadia, and offered to make a hefty donation."

J.B. Vora, a local official who presided over the weddings, told AFP, “This is a historic event which is going to bring in a big social change in the lives of the women of Vadia village.”
Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/world/indian-mothers-hold-mass-wedding-village-sex-workers-save-daughters-prostitution-article-1.1037143#ixzz1pAIUU42S